Humility Is A Virtue With These Three Words
By Larry Mogelonsky, Managing Director Hotel Mogel Consulting Limited
Our industry is currently facing some highly complex issues with no obvious answers – the OTAs, third-party review sites, alternate lodging websites, dilutive brand expansions, thrifty millennial purchasing habits and many more. Managers and consultants are all under the gun, expected to weather these storms like a titanium-hull icebreaker with a clear trajectory that cracks through any obstacle.
In other words, the three words of 'I don't know' are a great addition to your tool belt. When said properly, they show confidence and humility, and can help all parties move forward as one.
Are the OTAs stealing our customers in the long run? I don't know.
Is Airbnb simply opening doors to new travelers or is it destroying our business model? I'm inclined to believe the latter, but I can't say for certain.
Will the millennials remain as entitled cheapskates or will they eventually grow up to realize the benefits of loyalty programs and upscale service delivery for a reasonable price? I certainly hope so, but only time will tell.
Over the course of 40+ year business career, it's safe to say that I've had my fair share of business interactions. In my veteran opinion, a person who is capable of saying those three golden words is always preferable to the businessperson who is the spitting image of genius and bravura with definitive answers to every scenario imaginable. And my reasoning is this: a voice of unwavering poise and foresight leaves no room for second options or creative solutions. Whereas an 'I don't know' opens the doors to a constructive, back-and-forth conversation, an 'I have all the answers' approach prevents an even better resolution from surfacing.
That said, there are many ways to utter, "I don't know," and only a few are useful. It comes down to body language and continuing to move the ball forward, even if it's only inches. For instance, a blasé, "I dunno," accompanied by an equally apathetic shoulder shrug is not helpful because it stalls the discussion. A firm, "I don't know," spoken with care and concern, and matched with a follow-up statement, can be highly productive, however.
Try these two on for size: "I don't know. I'm trying to understand that problem myself and I think about it every day. While I don't have a definitive answer, here's what I do know…" or "I can't answer that right now, but let me do some more research and get back to you by [date] with some actionable ideas."
Both of these are constructive and help to eliminate any vagary associated with speaking those three titular words. Whether you are discussing ways to convert OTA customers or counteract Airbnb, sometimes starting off from a place of naiveté will help you reach an answer that satisfied the most parties. So, next time you're confronted with a situation where the next steps or outcomes are unclear, know that 'I don't know' isn't a death knell, and far from it in fact when stated correctly.
The world’s most published writer in hospitality, Larry Mogelonsky is the managing director of Hotel Mogel Consulting Limited. His experience encompasses hotel properties around the world, both branded and independent, and ranging from luxury and boutique to select-service. Larry also sits on several boards for companies focused on hotel technology.More from Larry Mogelonsky